Sometimes it’s hard to know where to start when it comes to keeping your children safe online. The internet changes all the time, and it’s full of perils and positives that are tricky to navigate even as adults. While we’re all still learning what it means to support our kids online, we’ve got some ideas to help you get started.
If your kids are keen YouTube users, there are a couple of ways that can help you to handle their usage. Firstly, turn on restricted mode. Restricted mode is a function that means you and your kids won’t see content that’s been flagged inappropriate by other YouTube users. You can do this by following these steps:
- Click your display picture in the right-hand corner of your screen.
- Select ‘Settings’.
- Scroll down to the footer, where you’ll see your language, your location, and then ‘Restricted Mode’.
- Click ‘Restricted Mode’.
- Enable it by clicking ‘On’, and then clicking ‘Save’.
Even better than restricted mode, download the YouTube kids app. Make sure that’s what they’re using to access YouTube. It’s a creative, curated space where your kids will have fun and stay safe at the same time.
Chrome, Safari and Firefox all have ways to add extra security for your kids while they search. For very basic safe browsing functions to be added to your Chrome browser, take the following steps:
- Click on your Chrome Preferences.
- You’ll now see a page pop up. Scroll down to the bottom of it and click ‘Advanced’.
- Scroll until you see ‘Safe browsing’.
- Enable ‘Safe browsing’ by swiping right.
You can also go to the Chrome web store and check out the free add-ons for your browser. Add-ons are kind of like apps, but they live within your browser and they’re often free. If you search ‘Parental controls’ in the web store, you’ll be given a list of different add-ons. This is where it’s important to do your research and decide what will work best for you and your family.
Firefox is similar to Chrome, and add-ons are probably the most effective way to keep your kids safe without paying for something external. Head to the Moxilla Firefox store, search ‘Parental controls’, and once again, do your research to work out what will suit your needs best.
If you’re using Safari on your iPhone or iPad, you can easily enable safety functions by following the steps below.
There are some simple steps you can take to keep your kids safe while using iPhones or iPads. If you have an older version of iOS:
- Tap your ‘Settings’ app.
- Tap ‘General’.
- Tap ‘Restrictions’, and enable them.
- You’ll be asked to create a passcode, so choose one that your kids won’t guess (probably not their birthday or 1234).
- From here, you can make changes to restrictions. Explore what you’d like to restrict.
If you’ve got a more recent version of iOS:
- Tap your ‘Settings’ app.
- Tap ‘Screen Time’.
- Tap ‘Content and Privacy Restrictions’. Once you’ve tapped there, check out the different things you can to do keep your iPhone private and safe.
- Tap ‘Content Restrictions’. This will help you to set perimeters for what your child will and won’t see on your phone.
If you’re an Android user, your parental controls will likely differ from phone to phone. Search the make and model of your phone, and you’ll hopefully find some tips as to how your phone in particular can keep your kids safe. External apps can also come in handy. You can do your own research on these, but we’ve listed a few that we like in the next section.
External apps and hardware
There are paid third party apps that you can download for your device to help your kids browse safely. Check out Net Nanny and Norton Family. Both of these enable you to supervise web use and app downloads, as well as gain insight into what your kids are doing on your devices. We’re big fans of Safe Surfer. They provide a piece of hardware for you to plug into your wifi router that heavily monitors the content that comes through, blocks all of the inappropriate stuff, and allows you to set bedtimes for devices. You don’t need to have any tech skills to use Safe Surfer, and you’ll get simple reports back that allow you to have conversations with your children about what they’re looking at. It also reinforces other restrictions that you’ve set on your browsers and devices.
Check in with your internet provider to see if they offer parental controls. We know that Spark and Vodafone both do, and it’s worth learning about how your provider can help your kids to stay safe online.
While all of the above are helpful, they’re not foolproof. Kids are a lot more tech savvy than you were in the days of dial up internet, and sadly, it’s likely that some things will still slip through the cracks. The best thing that you can do is have healthy communication with your child about what’s happening in their online world.
If you know your child is struggling with things that they’ve seen online, start a conversation with them. Stay calm and empathetic, and don’t be afraid to reach for help if you’re worried about their wellbeing.
How we can help
We know that trying to talk about things that have been traumatic can be really tough, and we want to help with that. Psychologist Karen Young wrote an article for 'Parenting Place' about talking to children of different ages about trauma, which you can find here. This article in particular is helpful for walking alongside children if they’re struggling to process information about world events that they’ve stumbled across online. We’ve also got some really great articles that cover different areas of online safety, you can check out a few below:
At Parenting Place, we have family coaches who are here to help you work out how to have those hard conversations. They’re available in person, on Skype or via email. Learn more about how family coaching could help you here.
Youthline and the Kids Help Line exist to support young people, and they’re trained in dealing with the challenges that come with the ever-changing world of the internet. Your child can call the help line on 135 247 or call Youthline on 1800 198 313, or call Kids Help Line on 1800 55 1800 for a free confidential chat.
More information on this article can be found at: https://www.theparentingplace.com/technology/how-to-get-your-head-around-parental-controls/
The Pastoral Care Team