It is getting towards the time of the year where we begin to consider where to next for our students, and you for your daughters. Having said this, I do not mean it in the sense of physicality, but rather with respect to the learning that has occurred and the results that your daughters have achieved. This comes with much reflection upon the efforts and commitment they have made to achieve whatever these results have been, and to consider what progress and growth has occurred. We always encourage our girls to consider their own goals and process their successes and failures but, as parents, we know too that we have a significant role to play in guiding them as they move forward.
As a parent myself, I wonder at times what impact I have had on the success of my children (often wondering, if any), but knowing full well that I have had a great impact on their life journeys to date.
We know that our children will make mistakes but, with a strong grounding and guidance provided by parents, they can, and do, achieve success. Girls often have special bonds with their mothers, and at times it may be thought that ‘Mum’ is the one who does much of the school-related ‘stuff’; however, in this day and age we see our young women’s fathers involved to a great degree, which is wonderful. Dads have such a significant impact on their daughter’s progress and well-being and we work to strengthen that where we can.
In exploring this area, when it comes to learning and achievement, we should consider what impact the relationship with her father may have on a young woman’s academic and vocational path— how this relationship influences her academic performance and, as a consequence, her career success and financial well-being. Linda Nielsen (2014), who has undertaken much research around the impact of fathers on daughters’ academic success, states that “As you might guess, daughters whose fathers have been actively engaged throughout childhood in promoting their academic or athletic achievements and encouraging their self-reliance and assertiveness are more likely to graduate from university and to enter the higher paying, more demanding jobs traditionally held by males. Even college and professional female athletes often credit their fathers for helping them to become tenacious, self-disciplined, ambitious, and successful.” These are all strong values that will place our young women in good stead for their futures. Nielsen provides some useful research and readings around this subject, and reinforces the role that a father can play in their daughter’s success. I have included some information here that you may wish to read further.
Linda Nielsen is a professor of educational and adolescent psychology at Wake Forest University and the author of Father-Daughter Relationships: Contemporary Research & Issues (2013) and Between Fathers & Daughters: Enriching and Rebuilding Your Adult Relationship (2012).
On a final note for Term 3 – a special shout out to our Seniors of 2018 and more
For the OP pathway girls, the QCS Test is over, and congratulations to all. Remember, however, that, whilst this test is an important aspect of your Year 12 experience, it’s not the be-all and end-all. Your individual scores don’t have a direct impact on your final OP. Whilst I am sure everyone tried their best in the exams, try not to stress over the results of the whole grade which, ultimately, you can’t control. Focus on simply doing the very best that you can do in your own studies now and you should be successful. Remember, it is about putting in effort and maintaining your individual results – to the best of your ability.
For our seniors who are on a vocational pathway, continue to put your best efforts into your studies, and you too will attain the best possible results - for you. Your TAFE qualifications, and any other qualifications that you have gained or are gaining, will position you well for your future. Good luck as you progress through the remainder of Year 12.
And so the message for all of our young women from Years 7-11, maintain your commitment and dedication. The end of the year is not that far away, and it is important to remember that you do not get this time back. Enjoy it but, importantly, make the very most of all of it. We are all blessed to be here at Mt A in such a supportive community.