Change and Loss situations in life can be difficult to handle. Stress is a normal part of life but it is when these things are overwhelming that we need to attend to our feelings because grief can turn to depression if the signs are not heeded. Grief and loss can occur when you have lost someone dear to you, or lost an important memento: separation, divorce, violence in the home, losing your job, moving house and relationship problems are just a few of the top stresses in our lives.
Children can also feel very stressed and anxious at times, especially when there’s a lot of change in family circumstances. Above all else, children need to feel safe and secure in knowing that they have food, shelter and love. Family violence and breakdown can adversely affect children, as well as friendship issues, bullying or learning problems.
When a child loses a family member, it can make them feel insecure and worried that a main caregiver will also die. They may become more clingy or revert to behaviours of a younger child. They may also feel angry, sad and anxious. Grief is a very real and normal reaction to a loss in a child’s or adult’s life, however, when sad feelings won’t go away, it is time for action! Too many of our young people have taken their own life and anxiety and depression can begin early in a child, especially when they are feeling overwhelmed and hopeless about a situation.
The most important way to help a child or adult through depression and anxiety is to TALK about it and to know that for every Question, there is an ANSWER. There is a lot of help for people with depression and I urge you to seek help if you or a loved one have symptoms of anxiety or depression, which can include tiredness, no motivation to enter into daily activities, a change in behaviours, excessive crying, excessive fear, low self esteem, feeling worthless or hopeless and negative thinking.
Please seek help from on-going Counselling, which can be accessed through your family Doctor and go on medication if you need to. You can also go on-line to find resources to help, such as the Black Dog Institute, Beyond Blue or Good Grief websites and Headspace is an excellent resource for teenagers and young adults. Please come and have a chat with me if you would like someone to talk with or for more information on these matters.
Just a Reminder that Parent Afternoon Tea is on Friday at 1.30pm this week, due to an early release on the last day of school.
I hope you are managing to stay warm on these chilly days.